Don't we know it. We visited a lot of places and this is the second place she's been in. And it's not always great--and it's only going to get worse as staffing needs get greater and applicants get fewer. That's part of why we all feel sick we couldn't keep her in her own home--but we tried for a couple of years and it was either keep doing that and all of us neglect our own children and get divorced--or place her in a care home.

Thank YOU for working in dementia care. I have nothing but respect for those of you working in the field.